A family is the most basic institution which forms a society. Strong and cheerful bondings within it result in better individual personalities of each of its members. The most impactful in a family are parents who can influence the environment within the household and the developments of the children.
Since Islam is not only about worshipping the only Creator but also about living a balanced life in this world, it has clear instructions about the rights and duties of each member of the society. Parents have their duties, too, while bringing up their children. Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) said:
“The best gift to children from parents is their correct training” [Tirmidhi]
This duty takes years of hard work, patience and a lot of trials and errors but there are a few things that all Muslim parents should keep in mind while training their children.
Teachings of Allah and Islam:
Every Muslim parent must impart religious knowledge to his children. Starting at an early age, children should be told about the existence of Allah, His powers, His mercy, and His compassion. Such teachings help lay the foundations of the firm belief in Allah as well as develop a love for the Creator.
As they grow up, children should be introduced to Islamic teachings according to their age. All about faith, prayers, fasting, charity, and pilgrimages should be taught by parents.
It isn’t all about worshipping but also about one’s moral values. Children should be taught about the importance of truthfulness, honesty, kindness, respecting others and their differences, generosity, and fairness. These virtues should be indoctrinated at a young age.
Love and Compassion:
Yes, we know you love them already but it needs to be expressed. Children should be treated with love, care, and gentleness and spoken to politely. Allah’s Messenger (P.B.U.H) was kind and loving towards children and instructed the believers to be the same:
“He is not one of us who does not show compassion to our little ones and recognize the rights of our elders.” [Tirmidhi]
These are not the times when children obey very strict parents. Instead, they become rebellious and become disrespectful because they feel disrespected, too. Be respectful and kind to them; they deserve it.