Infidelity is known as the action or state of being unfaithful to a spouse or other intimate partner. Like some other very serious matters, this heinous act is all too often just brushed away in the societies that we live in today. There are many Islamic scholars and preachers that have to deal on a daily basis with many couples who are facing this trouble as one of them is being unfaithful to the other. Though it can be safe to assume that this is not present at the alarming scale at in Muslim societies which it is found in western societies, still Islamic societies are not by any means exempt. It was estimated by Buss and Shackelford back in 1997 that around 30%-60% of married individuals in America will at one point or other in their life would engage in infidelity. One of the worst things that arise from this problem is the aftermath problem where the cheater quickly goes in to a defensive mode and is quick to belittle their significant other in order to divert the blame, attention of the sin from them.
One of the problems in our societies is that due to the placement of extremely biased expectations on the wife, many women who are wives are rather blamed for the infidelity of their husbands, sometimes even by their own families. The reasoning that is given is disgusting, as mostly it is the case that the wife is blamed for not keeping her husband happy and content. This directly contradicts every Prophet teaching and the principles of Islam. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) never blamed the spouse of an adulterer for not doing enough and keeping the other happy so they could stop them from cheating.
Too often it is seen nowadays that either one of the spouses leaves the other for someone else. Sadly this problem is becoming epidemical in Muslim societies also. Muslims today are keen to abandon all the principles of marriage that Prophet Muhammad (SAW) has taught us. One of the things that people need to realize is that, these secret relationships can never last. If people tend to think that they can secretly marry the ones there are engaging with in infidelity, then let them simply ask themselves this simple question, and the ones they are marrying or getting together with also ask themselves this one question, how can a person who has already cheated on a the other spouse can ever be loyal enough to spend their entire life with you?
Here is a thing that people especially Muslims need to understand before following their desires blindly and going down the path to Hell for this terrible sin.
Allah is Watching
Always remember that there is no excuse for adultery so for those people that are cheating on their husbands or wives know this that victim shaming the other spouse might divert the blame from you here but there is no cheating Allah (SWT). Allah (SWT) has appointed a Day where all people will get their just returns for what they used to do in life. No person will bear the burden of another on that very hard Day. Turning to the disgusting elements and ideologies within a backward society will no way validate your crime.
And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way. (Quran Surah Al-Isra Ayah 17:32)
In an authentic Hadith, the Prophet of Allah (SAW) said: “The one who cheats is not one of us.” (Sahih Muslim).
Also for those that think that they can make their mistake right by pursuing their Haram relationship and validating it through marriage, know this that something that started with the deception of the devil will not suddenly becoming something pure and everlasting. If a person who has committed this wrong, he or she will have to sincerely repent to Allah (SWT) and seek His blessings and forgiveness and make amends with all the people that they have hurt. For those that say All is Fair in Love and War, we simply say, grow up and take responsibility for your actions and use your brains especially if you believe in Allah (SWT), His Messenger (SAW) and the Last Day.